To The Forever Third Wheel, This One’s For You
Because this will help with the third wheeling
Now I don’t know why, but being the third wheel seems to be a bad thing to most people. Is it because it’s evidence of our singledom? Is it because my friends think they have to take me with them on their dates because I don’t have any of my own? Maybe people see me as the obstacle to an otherwise perfect dinner-for- two date.
But hey, we third wheels make things more fun and less routine! We just need to keep a few things in mind. And for those newbie third wheels, it’s time to listen up.
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If they don’t ask, don’t go
You might think and consider yourself as part of the relationship, but you just don’t know what’s going on in your couple’s lives. They might need that alone time and they might already have made plans when you hint that you want to go out with them. So unless they actually do the inviting, you should probably stay away.
Pay your share
Every couple dynamic is different and most boys and girls take turns paying for things now—and we third wheels shouldn’t be an exception to that. Offer to pay for your share of the dinner and the drinks that you consume after. If they insist on shouldering the whole bill, then it’s totally your call, but do not assume that you’re getting a free ride.
Be sensitive of their time alone
With or without a third wheel, a date is still a date. Let them walk behind or in front of you sometimes so they can be sweet without your prying eye on them. Be the first to go home, don’t overstay your welcome and definitely do not sit in between them on the couch.
Keep your mouth shut
Couple fights are inevitable and sometimes they come with no warning whatsoever. And if they’re comfortable enough around you, they won’t even save it for that ride home; they’ll start it right in front of you. When this happens and even if they ask for your opinion, it’s better to keep out of it.
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Don’t leave either one out
Chances are, you’re closer to one person in the relationship than the other. It kind of can’t be helped, you probably knew one longer or talked to them more. But if you’re out with them, make it a point to speak to them both. Don’t keep the conversation one sided and don’t be afraid to chime in on the conversation either! It’s going to be an awkward night if you’re only speaking to one.
But be careful with what you say
When you’re out with your couple, you have to be a little careful with what you say. A few things that one might have told you in private might not be something that you can share with the other. They might be in love, but you don’t know what they share with each other and what they don’t.
Being a third wheel can sometimes be an amazing thing. Use it to your advantage and make it better for everyone involved—your couple is sure to love you more for it!
Art Alexandra Lara