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#HijaAko: Reawakening the Fight Against Rape Culture

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Frankie Pangilinan sparks an important discussion on victim-blaming

 

 

We’ve all seen it: the alarming exchange between Frankie Pangilinan, a teenager, and Ben Tulfo, a grown man of 65. Tulfo patronizingly calls Pangilinan “hija” as he tries to warn her that men are always waiting for the opportunity to commit sexual assault. He tells “sexy ladies” to be careful with their choice of clothing—anything too revealing would inevitably “invite beasts.” We’ve also all seen Pangilinan clap back at the man with three solid bullet points and a throng of women using the hashtag #HijaAko to back her up. 

 

 

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And while it’s great that we all know what we’re fighting for, we’re exhausted. 

 

Women—all women—are tired of this. We recycle discourse on rape culture every damn quarter of the year (if not every single day of our lives) only to unearth a plethora of men who don’t want to believe us. A horde of naysayers tells us that we’re delusional for thinking that boys will ever outgrow “being boys.” We are blamed for instances of abuse, assault and rape. 

 

Survivors are put through the harrowing experience of having to report to authorities whom they know won’t believe them (the original post Pangilinan was responding to was from a police station in Quezon). Women are made to believe that any unwanted attention and the assault or violence that ensues should have to endure because of how they dress, act or look—as if men are mindless beings, walking around dick-first.

 

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According to an article from Business Mirror, “More women were raped, physically abused, sexually exploited and trafficked in 2019, according to the latest data obtained by the Philippine Statistics Authority from the Philippine National Police (PNP) and the Department of Social Welfare and Development (DSWD).” As of February this year, there were 2,162 rape cases reported to the police in 2019, 30.6% higher than the total number of cases reported in 2018. Over two thousand rape cases in one year. What’s worse is that these figures don’t even include attempted rape and the rape cases that simply aren’t reported (fact: as of 2017, only about 2 out of 5 cases are reported). Let that sink in. 

 

It shouldn’t be our job to educate men on our collective and personal traumas. We shouldn’t have to relive our worst nightmares just to drive a point. Yet here we are, again. 

 

Filipino women are rallying online, using the hashtag #HijaAko, to speak up against rape culture in different ways. Triggered by the incident between Pangilinan and Tulfo, people are fighting back. 

 

A handful of brave women have used the movement to share their personal stories of abuse and trauma.

 

 

Celebrities and influencers have come forward with their own #HijaAko stories. 

 

 

 

Artists have begun to churn out pieces that express rebuke of rape culture.

 

malayo pa ang umaga / @malayopangumaga on Twitter

 

Image Phillip Andrei N. Danganan / @philiozei on Twitter

 

Moving beyond Twitter, some women have chosen to create TikTok videos in solidarity.

 

 

And uncomfortable but necessary conversations have sprung up.

 

 

 

We’re taking big strides to show the world we will no longer stand for this bullshit. But the fight against rape culture is far from over. We need allies to win this fight, and straight men need to understand that simply not being a rapist isn’t enough. That’s the bare minimum. Being an ally against victim-blaming means using your voice and your male privilege to call out other men on their lewd and lascivious behavior to stop assault, rape and violence. 

 

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This culture of denial––the culture of victim-blaming and slut-shaming, as well as sexual objectification and trivialization––can only end when we all take accountability. Men need to be held accountable for their actions, the women responsible for supporting fellow women and telling them “No, it is not okay that they were groped or touched without their consent.” Women should be allowed to speak, especially when such things happen and they should be listened to.

 

“Boys will be boys” should never be used to justify horrific acts ever again. All-male group chats should cease to be safe havens for perversion, for exchanging bikini pics or nudes of girlfriends, of “chicks” they met somewhere. Untoward advances should be called out right now. Oppressive, passive language when discussing the issue should be corrected. Men should question their stances when called out as problematic; reflect on how they might have unintentionally created an environment of discomfort; and ask how they can do and be better.

 

We need to end this is together. Because girls should not have to learn how not to be raped. And boys need to be taught to not rape.

 

 

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Words Mags Ocampo

Art Matthew Ian Fetalver

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