The RomCom Manual: How to Confess to the Person You Like

The RomCom Manual: How to Confess to the Person You Like

RomComs can teach you a thing or two about how to confess to the person you like



When someone makes your palms sweat, your stomach turn and your heart race simply by being in the same room as you, how can you possibly work up the courage to let them know how you feel? Instead of winging it, we're looking at some romcoms for guidance. Here are five ways to declare your love (or interest) to that one special person.


Let them know that you see the little things


Letting someone know that you love them can go beyond those three words, and professing your love does not require a grand gesture. Sometimes, it’s recognizing the little things that makes connections more special. Take notes from When Harry Met Sally (1989). We’ll stop right here and let Harry’s monologue speak for itself:


I love that you get cold when it's 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you're looking at me like I'm nuts. I love that when I spend a day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes; and I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night.”


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Get poetic


Another way to confess is to tell them everything you “hate” about them—poetically, of course! With 10 Things I Hate About You (1999), loosely based on Shakespeare’s The Taming of the Shrew, it’s only right for one’s declaration of love to happen through a poem. Sit with your feelings and spill it all on a piece of paper! Whether you choose to recite it or send it is up to you.


Use some good ol’ cue cards


Being in love with your best friend’s wife is not a good idea—what more kissing her behind his back? But we must admit that the cue card confession from Love Actually (2003) is adorable. Additionally, it prevents mind blocks and stutters. Accompany it with soft music and amusing visual aid, and you’re good to go. Just make sure they're available first, okay?


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Call their bluff


Honesty is an important key to any relationship. In How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days (2003), Benjamin was able to stop Andie from running away (both from New York and from her feelings) by calling her out on her BS. To show your fondness for someone, consider being truthful or even vulnerable in front of them. It just might encourage them to do the same.


When words aren’t enough, turn to music


Have you ever listened to a song and thought, “It feels like I wrote this” or “This reminds me of them?” Lloyd, from the film Say Anything (1989), can relate. When the father of his beloved, Diane, stopped them from seeing each other, Lloyd stood outside her house and lifted a boombox over his head. His song choice was Peter Gabriel’s In Your Eyes, which was also playing when they got intimate for the first time. Boomboxes are barely accessible now—good thing we can send links and make playlists!


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We can give you all the tips and ideas in the world, but at the end of the day, you still know your heart the most. Listen to it, and it will provide all the words and actions that you (and your potential partner) may have been looking for.



Words Kyla Villena

Art Matthew Ian Fetalver

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