These kinds of comments in this day and age? Wake up, y’all; it’s 2019
If you’ve seen the first installment of our cover stories for March (as you should), you’ll have clicked into this page knowing that:
A. Our March covers are well worth your excitement;
B. We’re celebrating the nasty, unapologetic, feisty Filipina all month long;
C. Despite how ridiculous it might seem, women still have age-old sexist comments thrown their way.
Blatant sexism in this day and age? Deserving of its own circle in hell right, but unfortunately still existent.
While the fight for feminism continues––that’s for women to get equal rights and not for us to be above men, for all of you who brush it off without understanding the meaning of the word––there are just some days when the prevalence of dated perspectives catches us off-guard. I mean, sure, let’s ignore all the accomplishments women have under their belts just because they have, gasp, different reproductive organs and the constant belittlement of society weighing them down. For little girls and grown women across the globe, this struggle is an everyday reality.
Ahead, we’ve rounded up some of the most absurd side-comments, snide remarks and outright insults real women have heard from men or worse, fellow women.
“From my grade school teacher, “Kababae mong tao, ang ingay ingay mo
(You’re a lady, and yet you’re so noisy).””
“I hate when my own parents come into my room––
which is you know, my space––and make remarks about
how messy it is despite me being a girl.”
Did we miss the memo? What exactly is it that stops women from being as noisy and messy as men?
“‘Madali ka kabahan kasi babae ka
(You get nervous easily because you’re a girl).'”
My high school teacher on why I wasn’t the one sent to
compete at a contest.”
“”Ah, babae kasi (No wonder, it’s a woman),”
“I was looking at a pair of Muay Thai shortsin a sports store,
and was checking out the item fearing it would be too long on me.
Suddenly, this sales attendant––a male––comes up to me and says,
“No, ma’am. Our jogging gear is on that side.”
I just looked at him and went, “Yeah? Well,
it’s too bad I don’t jog.”
First we can’t drive, now we can’t do Muay Thai either?
“When I try to do house chores or cook, “Ayan, pwede ka na mag-asawa
(There, you’re ready to get married).””
“When I was teaching a program in Africa,
one of my female participants kept raising her hand to answer.
She was then told, “You’re too intelligent.
That’s why no man would want to marry you.”
“I was listening to one of those AM radio shows,
and the host was speaking to an official about [The Battle of] Marawi.
They were having trouble with getting people to evacuate their homes,
and the host said something along the lines of,
“Sabihin niyo na lang na gagasahain niyo sila kung hindi sila sumunod.
Hindi niyo naman talaga gagawin eh
(Just tell them you’ll rape them if they don’t listen to you.
You won’t actually do it anyway).”
We can’t even begin to count the number of issues in this statement. How is propagating this logic on the waves even legal?
Heads high, ladies. If these comments are proof of anything, it’s that there’s lots more work to be done here.
Art Alexandra Lara