Because we can all use a little help in the life department
Even as 20, 30, 40-something year olds that like to pretend we know what life is and how it works, many of us still don’t. Honestly, what is work-life balance and how is it achieved? How do you sustain the life of house plants for god’s sake?? How does one keep his or her sanity spending more than eight hours with a toddler who just wants to play every second of the day? So many questions, so much life to deal with. And while our parents do give great life advice, sometimes it feels like they’re speaking a different language (i.e., my dad and his frog metaphors). Friends, on the other hand, sometimes favor friendship over honest opinions and thus give advice we want to hear rather than what we need to.
So here, we ask a couple of grownups (really, men and women in their 20s, 30s and 40s) for some of the best life advice they’ve ever received that helped them get through, well, life.
Enjoy and we hope you find them just as useful.
“Fight for what’s right! But if you’re wrong, be humble enough to say sorry.”
—Jeffrey, 34, sharing life advice from a childhood friend
“1) Choose your battles and 2) Everything will come to pass—both success and failures.” —Tara, 32
The second one stuck with me after reading The Greatest Salesman in the World, the copy of which was given to me by a priest friend.
“Don’t shit in your own backyard.” —Gino, 36
“Work hard, be kind and amazing things will happen.”
—Charly, 41, quoting Conan O’Brien
“Never compare yourself to other people (it’s so hard though); remember to relax your shoulders, unclench your jaw and unclench your hands.” —Alex, 28
“It’s easier to work with people you have at least a basic level of friendship with; don’t want to be friends? Find common interests to talk about, small talk in the workplace helps.” —Mimi, 30
I keep things too professional at work that sometimes I find it hard to talk to other people. It might be easier for people to work with you if they find you have common interests. At least that’s what a colleague told me.
“If you can’t be kind, be quiet.” —Nicole, 28
“Don’t start smoking.”
—Adie, 26, not taking her dad’s advice and hoping to quit one day
“Learn to live your life.”
“Always say ‘I love you’ (and mean it) to the people you love. You never know, it may be the last time you say it to them.” —Miguel, 30, agreeing to his dad’s advice
“Live your best life. ‘Caretake this moment. Immerse yourself in its particulars. Respond to this person, this challenge, this deed. Quit the evasions. Stop giving yourself needless trouble. It is time to really live; to fully inhabit the situation you happen to be in now.'” —Meryll, 34, quoting Epictetus
Life can be tough, so when the going gets tough, always remember that there are other people going through similar troubles. Talk to someone and ask for help. Trust us, the journey becomes easier when you know you’re not alone.
Art Alexandra Lara